Forgiveness is about reconciliation and homecoming

Are you waiting for an apology that hasn't come? According to the Cleveland Plain Dealer's "Faith and You" columnist Terry Pluto, sometimes people refuses to accept apologies because they feel that being a victim gives them a sense of power.

In certain cases, this situation can give rise to deep family divides, which require healing. In his column, Mr. Pluto draws upon advice from the Rev. Gary Chmura, of the Our Lady of Peace Catholic Church, in Cleveland. And, he focuses upon reconciliation, which comes after forgiveness. There are times when "feelings are hurt, confidences may be broken. Most of all, grudges are held onto as if they are gold bars."

Mayfield United Methodist Church's Pastor Scott Wilson believes that, while no one can be forced to accept an apology, they "can be treated kindly and with respect." Mr. Pluto urges us to do what is humanly possible to heal our relationships, and then leave the rest to God.

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